The ultimate goal of every person is to feel happy. But most often it is we ourselves—more precisely, our limitations—that block us from living a happy life.
Whether by accident or on purpose, we hide from life in certain aspects of it every day, and if one beautiful day these barriers fall, you will see how strangely life will change. However, you can bring this day closer on your own—by letting go of 20 things, you will be able to break through the walls of your limitations and become happy.
1. Approval from others
Who cares who thinks what about you? If you are happy with the decisions you make, then it is the right choice, and it doesn’t matter what others will say. Think how much you will gain by no longer constantly looking over your shoulder, wondering whether other people will like your decision or not. Besides, you rarely guess correctly what people actually think about you—so is it even worth trying? Listening to advice is fine, but don’t let others decide how you should live your life.
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2. Anger and resentment
Anger eats you up from within, so learn to make peace with those who irritate you. This does not mean you should allow others to take advantage of you just to avoid a conflict—simply learn to deal with anger and resentment, with the pain that remains inside. Remember, the person who makes you angry controls you. Life becomes easier when you learn to forgive, even when you never received an apology. Some people savor their resentment like a fine delicacy, and it leads to nothing good. These feelings do not harm the person you are angry with or resent—they only harm you.
3. The ideal body image
How often do you fall for cues from the beauty industry, or the opinions of your relatives and friends? Your body is one of the few things that truly belongs to you, so who, if not you, should decide how it should look? The only thing that matters is how you feel—comfortable or not. Everything else is fleeting.
4. The ideal partner image
The perfect partner does not exist, so don’t even hope for one. Each of us has an ideal image or at least a set of exemplary qualities that a person should possess, but life usually disregards these lists and laughs at them. What qualities should a partner have for you to be happy? For all people, they are the same: you must love them with all your heart, feel at ease and comfortable around them, and they must accept you as you are. If the first two points are present—great, you’ve found what you need. Only the last point remains to be cultivated within yourself. He is not perfect. Neither are you, and you will never be perfect. But if he has ever made you laugh, if he acknowledges that he is human and makes mistakes, stay with him and give him everything you can. He won’t recite poetry, won’t think about you every moment, but he will give you a part of himself, even knowing you might break it. Don’t judge. Don’t hurt him, don’t try to change him, and don’t expect more from him than he can give. Smile when he makes you happy, shout when he angers you, and feel lonely when he’s not with you. Love is hard precisely because it exists. Because perfect people don’t exist, but there is one person who will be perfect for you.
(Bob Marley)
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5. The perfect life
Just as there is no perfect partner, there is no perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not ready to work seriously and make an effort, then you are choosing to be unhappy. The choices you make directly affect how your life unfolds. You can create your own world—the most beautiful of all worlds.
6. You’re going to become rich
Many people live their entire lives thinking they are going to become millionaires. Although this is not a bad goal in itself, achieving it requires tremendous effort. Moreover, money should not become an end in itself—you won’t be swimming in it like Scrooge. The main thing is to find work that becomes your passion and allows you to self-actualize, and then money will come (of course, unless you feel disgust toward it).
7. The idea that Fortune will turn to face you
Don’t wait for Lady Luck to knock on your door, even though it might happen at any moment. Appreciate the life you have and be grateful for what you already possess. Luck will never come if you’re just waiting for it.
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8. Excuses
There is no time for excuses. Forget about “I don’t have time”—there is only “I don’t want to.” Excuses are merely your attempt not to feel like crap when you once again fail to do what you should have done long ago.
9. Thoughts about ex-partners
You broke up for a reason—there was some cause. When remembering your exes, focus not on the person, but only on the lessons life taught you, on what you gained from that person. Don’t dwell on feelings for someone who will never be with you again—this will only ruin new relationships and cause you suffering.
10. Stubbornness
It’s hard to admit you were wrong. It’s simply that others had more knowledge or ability to do something correctly. So stop resisting—just accept it as a fact. The less stubborn you are, the more open you become to something new. Think how much you could experience and feel if you tried to understand and accept someone else’s opinion besides your own.
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11. Procrastination
Enough delaying—time to stop sitting around.
Stop postponing things—live today. If you constantly delay a certain task, ask yourself whether it’s worth doing at all? Maybe you don’t really need it? And if you do, then do it now—constantly putting things off only guarantees you guilt and stress. Is it worth suffering like this?
12. The baggage of memories
You shouldn’t drag along the baggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you deeply loved someone or thought you did, you will subconsciously compare and project that onto a new person who is innocent in every way. When starting new relationships, rid yourself of the old ones—not only in life, but also in your mind. And this applies not only to romantic relationships, but to all relationships in general—with friends, coworkers, bosses, etc.
13. Negativity
Everything that leaves your mind in the form of thoughts and words returns to you as reality. So change your mindset to “everything will be fine.” Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.
14. Don’t judge anyone
Why is it so important to everyone what happens in other people’s lives? We spend so much time discussing and condemning others, while they do the same to us. Since the world is a projection of our thoughts, we know for sure that everyone condemns us (because we do it ourselves). It’s a vicious cycle: you won’t be able to follow advice #1—stop caring what others think about you—if you don’t first stop judging others. Just remember: you haven’t been in their shoes, and even if it seems like you have, you haven’t. Everyone has their own inner demons, and their own life circumstances (shaped by those demons), so just stop it.
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15. Envy
Happiness is not about having what you want, but wanting what you have. Even social media makes people unhappy because they look at their former classmates, colleagues, and acquaintances and turn green with envy, feeling worthless. Next time jealousy strikes, ask yourself this: “Would I actually want to become the person I’m jealous of?” Probably not—you love yourself (even if only very deep down). You’re looking at someone else’s life that you know nothing about; you can’t even imagine what this person is thinking. Maybe at the very moment he dives into the pool of his private villa, he hates himself or is terrified of something? Perhaps you, walking through the forest on a sunny day, feel far greater joy than he does lounging on the white sand in the Maldives? Overall, stop comparing yourself to others. If you’re doing well right now—then everything is fine. If not, then take action to make it better.
16. Insecurity
Happy people usually possess a sense of self-worth. But don’t confuse it with an inflated ego. Happy people are content with who they are; they radiate confidence and aren’t afraid to show their strengths. There’s no reason whatsoever to feel insecure. If you have traits you hate, there are only two paths: accept them or change them. In any case, every person contains everything at once: the hedonist and the puritan, the lying scoundrel and the honest, free individual. You choose who to be—only you, not nature, which has nothing to do with it.
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17. Relying on someone else to be happy
No one, no person in this life, will fill your emptiness if it exists. No one will make you happy if you’re unhappy. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first find that happiness within yourself—and then the right person will appear. So don’t even hope that your happiness lies in someone else’s hands. It lies only in yours.
18. The past
Living in the past means burying your present. Mistakes happened, fine—who hasn’t made them? Give your memories a grand funeral, remember only the lessons, and move on.
19. Total control
Sometimes you just need to relax and let life unfold as it will. You can’t control EVERYTHING, and you’ll have to come to terms with that. Otherwise, you’ll constantly be anxious, angry, and in the end, still unable to change anything. There are simply things beyond your control that must be accepted as they are.
20. Expectations
If you expect nothing, you’ll never be disappointed. Often we think that if we act a certain way, others should too. That’s delusional. Nobody owes you anything, just as you owe nothing to anyone. Nobody has to be polite, attentive, careful, honest, pleasant to talk to, or clean, ultimately. And neither do you. Nothing has to be perfect, wonderful, pleasant, or unforgettable—but it can be. If it happens, great; if not, you won’t be sad. Be ready to accept everything life sends your way, and be happy!
