5 reasons why you can’t realize yourself

Many people are concerned about where to get the energy needed to achieve their goals. However, there are reasons why a person will always lack energy, regardless of the techniques and practices they apply. It is precisely these reasons that prevent a person from realizing themselves. Psychologist Kalayda Denis discussed this in his blog on B17. 1. Ignoring the brain’s hints If you constantly create mess in your room, even though you deeply hate it, it means that somewhere in your subconscious, a very important unfulfilled task is crying out—something even more important than what you’re currently occupied with. Your laziness and unwillingness to clean up at this moment isn’t really laziness at all, but rather a signal about the potential energy you could gain by completing that task. This signal is sent in order to obtain as much inspiration as needed to deal with all pressing issues. When you ignore it and keep postponing the matter, your blind subconscious decides you’re not serious and gradually starts consuming this energy like a hungry stomach devouring itself. The amount of energy eaten up is exactly what should have been gained. As a result, you become a broken, will-less person—yourself. Satisfaction from the neglected task never comes, not even for a second. You remain in the space of “lonely guilty time”—feeling like doing nothing at all. All the energy is hidden precisely within the action itself, and this is the hardest thing to understand. Where do you get the energy to start acting? Simply take action and start rolling down that hill, fully immersed in what you so desperately need. The horoscope for autumn promises Taurus incredible success in affairs, while Gemini will be smiled upon by success 2. Contradictions Unwillingness to act can also be linked to the fear of moving forward in life. Our entire life is a struggle with our own organism, and the matter runs much deeper than illness—it’s about the fact that if you live solely serving your body, which only requires basic needs (warmth, food, bed), your soul loses. The needs of the soul must be placed on equal footing with the needs of the body; this is the ideal connection, this is what happiness is. However, of course, it’s not that simple, because contradictions also exist. Contradictions are the most degenerate compromise in the battle between soul and mind—where neither side ever truly wins. Contradictions are obstacles that never allow a person to become themselves. They are all created by the external world, vast gatherings of people influenced by someone with leadership qualities who once said something. Probably, it doesn’t need explaining that such a person could also be mistaken. One common contradiction is the phrase “you need to become someone.” Someone. Anyone. At the same time, isn’t our entire environment directed precisely at ensuring we aren’t anyone except who they need us to be? How would they like it if you started introducing new rules? They wouldn’t like it at all, and you would very quickly stop being someone they like. I don’t doubt for a second that you have certain things in your image, character, or interests that you can’t change because your environment won’t allow it. Thus, “someone” automatically implies a successful millionaire, with their own business, stylishly dressed, generally attractive—and no one else. What about all the other possibilities? Aquarius should take up aerobics, while Sagittarius would benefit from mountaineering: sports by zodiac signs 3. Feeding energy vampires A person may spin like a top around others for many reasons. One of the main ones is having been insufficiently loved in childhood, leading to a persistent desire to please others. Such a person becomes silly and absurd, trying too hard to gain approval from people, sometimes complete strangers, which looks very strange from the outside. It’s also very important not to fall into the trap of eternal beggars, as there are many people whose interactions with others are built exclusively on achieving their own goals. Such people would sooner soil themselves than spend an extra minute talking to you about you instead of themselves. React differently than they expect, and they will fall away on their own. The person you’ve “figured out” will immediately start behaving very strangely, forcibly showing a reaction that instantly reveals all their cards the moment you act in a non-trivial way. Most likely, it will be some impossible, brazen insult or a very mean act, but wouldn’t you also do everything to save yourself if your legs were cut off? If a person acts this way, it means you’ve taken away an essential part of their energy, without which they become disabled. You “cut off their legs,” but in reality, you’re returning your own. These energy vampires target the weak; they don’t always do it consciously—it happens simply because otherwise, they won’t have energy themselves. How to overcome fatigue: a secret shamanic technique for restoring energy 4. Unwillingness to let go One way or another, by holding onto something you regret, you’re engaging in self-consumption from within. Energy is created and doesn’t disappear anywhere; it must be directed somewhere—those are the rules. Thus, negative things begin to happen that suppress this energy so thoroughly that you no longer have any “free time” for such nonsense. That’s how sensitive energy truly is to those who don’t value it. Now try to imagine that the past doesn’t exist. There is neither past nor future. All our fears vanish instantly, because fear of the future is merely a result of a failed past and nothing else. If you aren’t afraid of dogs, it’s most likely because a gang of stray mad animals has never attacked you. If your house has never burned down and you’ve never fled in terror, you probably don’t have smoke detectors installed or keep a fire extinguisher handy. Yet these risks always exist. A brick, an icicle, anything could fall on your head. You aren’t afraid only because your logical mind doesn’t allow for such a possibility, as people generally only learn from their own mistakes. But honestly, does fear help? No, it doesn’t—it consumes the soul. Regret over the past, over what no longer exists, is foolishness you must immediately rid yourself of if you want to live normally. Fear of the future is equally foolish because the future doesn’t exist either. It’s merely a strange word, and you’re free to disregard conventional norms and “trick” your brain as you see fit. Anything that helps isn’t strange. 3 breathing exercises from yogis for quick cleansing and rejuvenation 5. Non-existent boundaries of possibility The last point directly continues the fourth. Once you understand that only the present exists, it follows that the past never existed. And here you are—just you. Change can happen gradually or instantly. Let me tell a story: once, returning from a long hike, my friend and I stopped in an intermediate city on our way home and decided we would speak exclusively in English—with everyone, including each other. I immediately convinced myself I was a New York American, and my huge hiking backpack helped create the image. We asked for directions in English, ordered food, and caught phrases from passersby and restaurant customers about foreign visitors arriving. On the way, I started singing a song—I can’t remember which one—but the looks were wonderful. A passing woman muttered under her breath, “American,” and some cheerful girls took photos with us. The transformation happened instantly, and it was all because the past didn’t exist. For me, only the present remained, in which, strangely enough, nothing had been predetermined or decided. In this shell, I could do things I didn’t know I could do in my usual self. But what changed? And the main question—what will change for you, and will it change at all? That’s for you to decide.