Individual characteristics of sexual responses and romantic feelings, along with their typology, have long fascinated people. The Kama Sutra already classified men and women according to the size of their intimate organs, strength of desire, and speed of orgasm onset. In the famous Bible of Passion, even recommendations were given about optimal ways of combining different types of partners.
The Kama Sutra remains the Kama Sutra, but what do scientists think about the typology of passion?
Modern psychologists have established that sexual activity (measured by the number of sexual encounters) is a rather stable factor. Age—even such an important indicator—does not have a strong influence on the type of sexual constitution. Researchers have found that the earlier libido awakens and the more active one’s sex life is in youth, the more active it will remain in adulthood and even in old age.
The most renowned expert in the field of human typology is British psychologist Hans Eysenck. He was the first to identify a connection between sexual behavior patterns and personality type. His ideas remain highly relevant today.
Extrovert sex machine
These individuals are characterized by sociability, impulsiveness, and activity. Their carefree liveliness can infect any group with joy, while their recklessness may bring chaos and confusion into any matter. They are energetic both day and night, prefer music and bright colors, spicy food, and intense experiences.
Extroverts typically begin their sex lives earlier than others, show great interest in it, and often have diverse sexual contacts with a large number of partners. For extroverts, foreplay is important; they quickly become accustomed to certain sexual stimuli, and their desire for new sensations drives them to change lovers, situations, and positions. Extroverts find it easier to approach members of the opposite sex, and their hedonism allows them to derive greater pleasure and enjoyment from sexuality without experiencing anxiety, doubts, or fears. They express more affection toward partners and show openness in expressing emotions.
As lovers, they can adapt to almost anyone, although their activity, liveliness, and self-confidence may feel oppressive to particularly withdrawn introverts.
Introverted wallflower
These individuals are characterized by introversion, self-absorption, and focus on their inner sensations. They do not seek activity or social interaction, as the impressions from their inner life are sufficient. Loud company, intense experiences, and spicy food are alien elements to introverts. They prefer coziness, calm music, dim lighting, silence, solitude, and coolness.
“Wallflowers” often begin their sex lives later. Anxiety and doubts prevent them from relaxing and enjoying sex. Restrained and inhibited, introverts tend to seek subtle and enduring relationships; their sex lives are usually complicated by a lack of emotional vivacity. Introverts show fewer signs of attention toward partners, and their affections are ambivalent, colored by various emotional experiences and uncertainty. It is precisely among this type that tendencies toward perfectionism and exaggerated expectations of “true love” are most common. Due to their introversion and inability to openly discuss their sexual problems, they are often dissatisfied with their sex lives and feel disillusioned in love.
Introverts generally find it difficult to build relationships with partners. Only trusting and stable relationships with a loved one can overcome their shyness and restraint.
The eroticism of neurotics
These are people with high emotional excitability and sharp reactions. In stressful situations, they develop neurotic symptoms—insomnia, frequent mood swings, acute feelings of inferiority, and irritability. They prefer soft pastel tones and light, non-spicy food. Their constant complaints about poor well-being and life difficulties can even irritate carefree extroverts.
Neurotics often have strong libidos but cannot realize them due to guilt and anxiety regarding their sexual activity. Unstable self-esteem forces them to constantly doubt their attractiveness, preventing them from experiencing true pleasure from intimacy. Consequently, sexual satisfaction among neurotics is even lower than among introverts. Sex often seems dangerous and repulsive to them, and their own desires appear abnormal. They most frequently experience psychosexual problems and disorders: anorgasmia and frigidity in women, premature ejaculation and impotence in men.
Neurotic personalities most easily get along with persistent and sociable extroverts who can instill confidence in them. It is most difficult for neurotics in partnerships with similar types or with psychotic personalities.
Psychotic African passions
These individuals are completely healthy, yet their character often displays certain antisocial traits: unapproachability, rigidity, hostility, intolerance, and aggressiveness. They are not known for neatness, refined manners, or aesthetic taste in daily life. They prefer action-packed detective stories, thrillers, and anything extreme. On the table of “psychos,” meat with blood, salt, hot pepper, and garlic most often appear. They cannot stand bland food.
“Psychos” have strong libidos and high erotic tension; they begin their sex lives early, driven by the desire to “discharge the batteries.” They experience intense sexual arousal and sometimes require “genuine African passions.” At the same time, “psychos” are not picky in choosing partners, prefer impersonal sex, and recognize no moral boundaries. However, they are rarely satisfied with their sex lives and often tend toward various perversions.
Among psychotic personalities, enthusiasts of group sex are most commonly found.
People of this type usually treat their partner as a faceless source of sexual pleasure; sentimentality and romanticism are alien to them. “Psychos” find lovers quite easily, but people who are in love find it difficult to be with them, so all relationships quickly end.
Sexual impostors
These manipulative and insincere individuals can adapt to any social group. Impostors change their mask depending on which appearance is more favored in the society they move within.
The sexual behavior of impostors is marked by conformity. Adhering to accepted social norms, they suppress other feelings and desires within themselves. Everything revolves around fitting in with the “scene.” They usually begin their sex lives late, unless pressured by their environment to act otherwise. If they play the role of moralists, they disapprove of premarital and extramarital affairs and avoid sexual experimentation. However, under social influence, impostors can fully embrace the most unconventional sexual pleasures and deviations just to “not be worse than others.” Typically, their weak libido is combined with a certain level of satisfaction with their sex life; they rarely reflect on the possibility of a different attitude toward sex.
Their partners can be of any type. However, they combine best with similar types and with extroverts.
It’s no secret that such a “Typology of Passion” facilitates the correct choice of a sexual partner, but it is most relevant for people not in long-term relationships. Loving individuals with experience in shared life easily adapt to the peculiarities of their partner’s sexual behavior.
Determine your type
1. You:
a) would easily agree to an expedition down the Amazon;
b) enjoy relaxing alone at your cottage;
c) only relax with very close friends;
d) could go on a trip alone;
e) would go on a trip only because you promised.
2. You:
a) can easily spend a month lounging on the beach with friends;
b) enjoy fishing by the shore of a remote lake;
c) cannot rest for long, thinking about important matters;
d) relax peacefully as long as no one bothers you;
e) rest exactly as much as you need.
3. You:
a) love parties;
b) enjoy communicating only with close people;
c) often feel uncomfortable;
d) frequently feel like a powder keg among people;
e) get along wonderfully with everyone.
4. If you hear rudeness directed at you, you:
a) quickly forget about it;
b) feel sad, but silently;
c) may burst into tears and take a long time to calm down;
d) respond in kind;
e) say nothing in reply, because you love people anyway.
5. You:
a) speak about people what they deserve;
b) don’t talk about people at all;
c) talk about those who have offended you;
d) rarely speak well of people, because very few deserve it;
e) only say good things about people.
6. You:
a) do not blame yourself for often being inconsiderate toward friends;
b) sometimes blame yourself for not wanting to communicate with someone;
c) often blame yourself for possibly having hurt someone in the past;
d) blame others for being too foolish and irritating you;
e) never blame anyone.
7. You:
a) have no enemies who wish to harm you;
b) experience communication difficulties, but it usually doesn’t lead to hostility;
c) have people who wish you ill;
d) have enemies whom you will inevitably overcome;
e) enemies always turn into friends.
8. If someone starts giving you orders, you:
a) try to make a joke;
b) prefer to avoid communication;
c) comply with demands to avoid provoking conflict;
d) cannot restrain your protest;
e) take it easily.
Interpretation
• If you chose “a” in five or more answers, you are an extrovert.
You easily establish and maintain contacts. Your emotional expressiveness and ability to take charge of situations attract people to you. You constantly seek external impressions and often act on sudden impulses.
• If you chose “b” in five or more answers, you are an introvert.
You are rather reserved and selective in relationships, which often causes difficulties. However, your concentration and tendency toward self-analysis, along with your focus on your inner world—which you consider more important than external impressions—can be beneficial in individual creative work.
• If you chose “c” in five or more answers, you are a neurotic personality.
You are unlikely to be satisfied with your ability to solve life’s problems. You often worry about various matters, even insignificant ones. You are overly sensitive and concerned not only for yourself but also for others. Due to low self-confidence, relationships with people are difficult, and your suffering over this is often completely unfounded.
• If you chose “d” in five or more answers, you are a psychotic personality.
You are entirely free from anxiety and doubt. Nuances and subtleties in relationships mean nothing to you—they only complicate life. You value energy and speed in everything much more. Your self-confidence, insensitivity, uncompromising attitude, and intolerance create more problems for those around you than for yourself. Although living with such a character isn’t easy for you either. Many things irritate you and prevent you from enjoying life, so you often engage in fierce battles to defend your point of view.
• If you chose “e” in five or more answers, you are a conformist.
You always know what those you wish to emulate like, so you adopt a behavioral style that helps you gain recognition from the desired circle. You easily change your positions and principles, but you skillfully adapt to the “right environment.”
• If your answers contain roughly equal numbers of various responses, you belong to the mixed type.
Depending on circumstances, you can display different behavioral patterns and ways of handling situations, indicating your talent for breaking free from stereotypes and adapting well to new situations and partners.
