Love is a beautiful and life-affirming feeling. But when it takes over a woman’s entire life, pushing out friends and family, personal interests and work, this wonderful emotion turns into psychological dependence.
A woman strives to permanently bind a man to herself, leaving no free time from the relationship—for either herself or him. She suffers from the fear of losing him—hence unfounded jealousy and hysterics arise. Such closeness harms the mental health of both partners, but the woman herself suffers the most. The man quickly begins to feel suffocated by these relationships, and their outcome is tragic.
The difference between love and dependence is obvious—love is enjoyed and brings joy. Dependence brings only pain and destroys the soul. It must be eliminated as quickly as possible—or better yet, never allowed to develop in the first place.
The consequences of a woman’s behavior driven by pathological dependence are truly destructive. Through them, she achieves exactly the results she fears most:
– The relationship breaks down. The man strongly dislikes total control, baseless and endless jealousy. Demands for complete accountability and constant closeness infringe upon his right to a private life, turning the relationship into a prison;
– The man begins to lie even about the most innocent matters, simply as a precaution. He becomes entangled in his own lies, which provokes yet another scandal;
– then he genuinely starts looking for excuses not to meet this woman or to come home as late as possible;
– The man begins nostalgically remembering the time when he was free. And starts thinking that there are many other, calmer and gentler women in the world.
Only a masochist could endure such pressure for long. A normal man will first try to justify himself, reach an understanding, and fix the situation. But he won’t be able to live in constant anticipation of explosions and never-ending drama. And when he starts suffocating, he will go where he can breathe freely.
And how does the woman appear when seen through the man’s eyes? She is constantly irritated, even aggressive, then suddenly shifts—she engages in self-blame and humbly asks for forgiveness. Rarely can a woman, angry and with a face distorted by pain, remain attractive. Living in constant stress and nervous tension leaves its mark on appearance—the woman becomes unattractive.
But it’s not only appearance that changes. The woman’s inner world transforms—she completely dissolves into the man, losing her individuality. By immersing herself solely in the relationship, she stops evolving and improving—and becomes uninteresting. Such a relationship destroys her as a personality, and she takes revenge on the man by trying to destroy him.
The most common advice in such a situation is to occupy free time with some engaging activity—to distract oneself and give the man space to rest and even miss her. Unfortunately, this often doesn’t help. Mentally, the woman remains right beside him, and suspicions that the man, now out of control, is doing something bad prevent her from relaxing.
External busyness aimed only at creating an image may help only briefly. But more likely, it’s self-deception that will quickly be exposed.
The cure for love addiction must be sought within oneself. Confidence, even self-assurance, is the backbone that prevents a woman from losing herself—even in a beloved man. No activities, no matter how interesting, can create this inner backbone.
Loved and loving people should complement each other, allowing room for growth, exploration, and discovery, making their lives more interesting and fulfilling. But the replacement of one’s personality is possible only if there is inner emptiness. And the woman seeks to fill this emptiness with her beloved—even if he doesn’t want it.
To prevent this from happening, one must find oneself. Answer the questions—Who am I? Why do I exist? What is my ultimate goal? By what means can I achieve it?
By answering these questions, a woman will discover the person within herself and learn to respect her. New goals will emerge and broad horizons will open. She will be ready for equal relationships that bring joy and energy—relationships that are creative, not destructive.
