Astrological compatibility in individual relationships begins with partner selection.
In a man’s horoscope, Venus indicates the primary preference for a feminine type he is attracted to. For example, if a man has Venus in Aries, he is drawn to athletic, vibrant women who radiate energy and readiness for action. He himself possesses these qualities and expresses them in romantic relationships; these traits are valuable to him and evoke pleasant feelings.
However, as the man begins communicating with a woman and a relationship develops—when you come together on shared ground and start building a common life—then the Moon comes into play. The Moon characterizes the image of a woman as a wife and mother, someone with whom a deep emotional and spiritual bond can form. Clearly, without this, serious relationships—and especially marriage—cannot be sustained. Like Venus, the Moon reflects his personal traits: his emotional nature, habitual and subconscious reactions to external stimuli, which cannot be changed.
Of course, these two planets do not operate independently. They represent a complex of physical and emotional qualities. The most challenging aspect of horoscope analysis is synthesizing them and drawing correct conclusions.
Difficulties arise when the signs occupied by the Moon and Venus are not in harmonious elements. Thus, a woman who initially appears to possess qualities he values may turn out to be incompatible for long-term cohabitation due to differences in emotional needs and habits—and vice versa. This often leads to disappointment and statements like: “At the beginning of our relationship, she was completely different…” or “Why do I always choose the wrong women?”
Dear women and girls, it is worth carefully assessing the positions of your own and his Venus and Moon in the zodiac signs. If your chart contains many planets in the sign of his Venus, it is clear why your partner chose you. In this case, his Moon sign indicates the qualities you need to support the relationship. Conversely, if you resemble his Moon, then the qualities indicated by his Venus are necessary to maintain ongoing sexual interest and aesthetic-pleasurable impressions of your appearance.
I would also consider the man’s age. The older the man, the more he tends to seek stable relationships and family life—thus focusing more on his Moon.
This article provides a brief description of Venus placements in the male horoscope. The Moon’s position should always be analyzed together with Venus, since Venus provides the initial impulse for relationship formation.
1. Men with Venus in fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) are attracted to athletic, energetic, vibrant, confident, and self-sufficient women who can take the initiative. Their clothing is bright, bold, and emphasizes feminine sexuality (a sporty girl style is possible). Venus in Aries (in the home of Mars) is especially drawn to Amazon-like women who display yang, masculine temperament—assertive, action-oriented, and capable of conquering men. If such Venus is aspected by masculine planets (for example, Jupiter or Mars), this attraction is intensified. Venus in Sagittarius (in the home of Jupiter) is also attracted to fiery temperament, but more flexible and less forceful. Emphasis is placed on the woman’s education and spiritual development. Social status is also significant (if the man has this information at their first meeting). If she speaks foreign languages or is a foreigner—or if her appearance clearly reflects another culture—so much the better. Venus in Leo (in the home of the Sun): as the song goes, “girls like stars”—meaning bright, unattainable, and popular, at least among his three closest friends. He likes women “in character”—full of self-dignity, proud, with upright posture and head held high, walking as if under the constant gaze of cameras and admirers.
2. Men with Venus in air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) are attracted to light (including physically light), sociable, charming, humorous, and optimistic women who can keep any conversation going. Their appearance should not contain anything aggressive or loud. Clothing should express liveliness and ease (except for Venus in Aquarius, which may appreciate something avant-garde or extraordinary).
Venus in Gemini (in the home of Mercury): variety is key. The woman should be changeable (or he will replace her with someone else before you even notice), adaptable to any situation, ready to “take off and roll” at any moment—and, of course, highly communicative. A man with this Venus placement is unlikely to be attracted to a girl who quietly stands in the corner at a party and cannot string two words together in conversation with a stranger. No, his woman has something to say to the world! She must constantly smile, radiate optimism, and effortlessly chatter on any topic.
Venus in Libra (in its domicile, though we must not forget Saturn’s exaltation in Libra): the main thing is not to be worse than others. The woman must meet the social standards accepted in his environment, so that neither her behavior nor appearance disrupts the harmony he values so highly. If he is well-off, educated, and expensively dressed—like his friends and relatives—then the woman must be at least no less so, because in matters of choice, especially in choosing women, he relies on others’ opinions. She must know how to behave in society, while remaining feminine, light, refined, and beautiful.
Venus in Aquarius is in the home of Uranus, meaning expect surprises in both appearance and behavior. Men may be drawn to girls with quirks or unusual interests—cool, independent, as if “on their own wavelength.” They often do not appreciate overt sexuality in a woman. Sometimes they prefer a boyish appearance. He may make a choice that no one understands except himself. He might dream only of this one girl and no other—even if she shows no interest in him, though this very circumstance may provoke even greater attraction.
3. Men with Venus in water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces). They are attracted to sensual, caring, tender, sweet women (sexuality and sensuality are hidden, only hinted at, even if quite transparent, as in the case of Venus in Scorpio). The outward appearance is sweetly feminine; fullness is not off-putting (again, in the case of Scorpio, aggressively sexual women may be appealing, especially if the aspects support this).
Venus in Cancer (in the home of the Moon). Such men perceive a woman as a potential wife and mother. They make their choice emotionally. They themselves are sensitive, somewhat infantile and vulnerable, and therefore seek a woman who will least disturb their feelings (often oriented toward the mother’s image or, conversely, its opposite, depending on the relationship formed with her), demonstrating tenderness, femininity, delicacy, and care in her behavior.
Venus in Scorpio (in the home of Pluto and Mars). The man loves sex and money. He wants his partner completely and entirely. Here, the number of partners is less important than quality—that is, the intensity of emotions and erotic experiences. Often, he himself exerts a magnetic impression, despite an average appearance, and desires a woman who is attractive—not necessarily conforming to any standards of feminine sexuality—but radiating a similar magical, powerful energy. Such men see through clothing and therefore sense these vibes from a kilometer away. They may also be drawn to an aggressively sexual image.
Venus in Pisces (exalted, in the home of Neptune). The image of the woman is romantic, idealized. These men dream of pure, elevated love… like in the movies, and they themselves are ready to surrender to feelings with full intensity. Yet often they simply don’t know what they want, because their conception of a woman is very vague and undefined. Most likely, they will like a feminine, soft woman capable of deep empathy, or in the worst case, one who becomes the same “shoulder to cry on.” He may pay attention to a woman who showed him sympathy or picked up a kitten in his presence. Incidentally, they themselves are highly receptive to excessive feminine sensitivity and tears. They do not accept coarseness or pressure in a woman at all—she immediately slips right out of their hands.
4. Men with Venus in earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn). They are attracted to hardworking, serious, modest, practical women who radiate calm and readiness for committed relationships (with Venus in Capricorn, women of higher status or material standing may be appealing). Appearance is less important—calm, even somewhat strict, reminiscent of the erotic fantasy of a secretary who hides a passionate nature beneath a black-and-white office look.
Venus in Taurus (in its own domicile). They love sensual pleasures no less than Venus-ruled Scorpios, but here not only sex matters, but also the appropriate setting, foreplay, and a touch of romance. Such men love with their eyes and “hands”—aesthetics and tactile sensations are very important to them. The woman should be tastefully dressed, smell pleasant, have soft skin, a pleasant voice, and emanate a sense of coziness, comfort, and being well cared for. Therefore, coarseness, sharpness, loudness, and any excessiveness, including regarding money, will irritate such a man.
Venus in Virgo (in fall, in the home of Mercury). To the question: “Why do you love me?” he might literally respond by listing your actions, complete with pluses and minuses, because he is attentive to detail and notices everything. If your tights get a run, he will definitely notice and be affected—though of course, this is an extreme case. He simply evaluates a woman, as he does everything else, rationally, takes things literally, and judges your attitude toward him by your actual actions. This does not mean he is incapable of passionate feelings. He is capable—and very much so. Precisely because in love he may completely lose control over himself, he is restrained and fears showing the full depth of his emotions. Thus, he will prefer a sensible and composed woman.
Venus in Capricorn (in the home of Saturn). He values status, success, and money, so a businesswoman, a daughter of respectable parents, or simply a woman with a good job is a highly attractive image. This does not mean they are gold-diggers—they may well have a solid bank account themselves—but as they say, money attracts money. A woman’s reliability and loyalty are of crucial importance, because he is suspicious and distrustful. It’s better to leave your “dark past” right where it is. They are rather dry and restrained in expressing emotions, and in return, do not expect African passions. In any case, his women are hardworking, practical, respectful of material values, strong-willed, and energetic.
A detailed analysis of the interaction between Venus and the Moon in a man’s horoscope, determining the most natural type of interaction with women for him, as well as choosing the right relationship strategy with a specific man—will be covered in our Astro Coaching session. You will learn many interesting things not only about men but also about yourself, and will learn to independently identify these indicators in individual charts, enabling you to correctly choose “your” men and build the right relationship strategies with them.
