Despite modern liberal customs, most women still dream of getting married—officially, with a stamp in their passport. Men, especially in their youth, are in no hurry to register their relationship at the registry office. And so the woman asks: “How can I get my beloved to marry me?”
There are many ways, but perhaps each one requires its own special key.
Sometimes you have to try an entire bunch of keys before finding the one that opens his heart. Experienced matchmakers advise impatient brides-to-be not to be pushy or show that they are desperate to get married.
Some still win a man over with culinary masterpieces, but this method doesn’t work as often now, since many men cook better than women do.
One of the most effective methods is flattery. However, in my opinion, an intelligent man won’t fall for crude flattery. And a fool, unless he happens to be Ivan Tsarevich, who needs him? Most likely, instead of flattery, one should offer well-deserved compliments and praise the man for his achievements and good deeds. It’s pleasant for every person to feel valued.
And it’s essential to be a good listener. Even if the topic your man brings up is completely uninteresting to you, it still helps to listen with genuine interest. This pleases your beloved and benefits you as well, since it gives you a chance to learn something new about him.
André Maurois once expressed this very well in his “Letters to an Unknown Woman”:
“I will never believe that a woman cannot capture a man’s attention, even by talking to him about himself. Most men are vain about everything related to their work. Just listen to how they speak about themselves and their affairs—this alone will be enough for them to consider you intelligent and make them want to see you again.”
And if you want to win a man over, don’t rush to tell him every detail about yourself, don’t argue with him, don’t try to impress him with your wit—instead, laugh heartily at his jokes.
Don’t forget to consult him often. Tell him how important it is for you to know his opinion.
Ask him for help. Allow yourself to be helpless and vulnerable from time to time. But don’t overdo the latter.
Try not to criticize your partner without reason. He is an adult, fully formed individual with his own habits, virtues, and flaws, and it’s unlikely he’ll easily part with them. Either you’ll have to make peace with this or look for another fiancé.
Try to become indispensable to your man. Learn to do something for him that only you can do.
Share his hobbies and interests. Learn to understand what he’s passionate about. But at the same time, don’t mother him, don’t tell him how to live or what to do, don’t turn into his second mother. Meanwhile, don’t lose your own friends and interests. Disappear from sight occasionally, citing your busy schedule…
And, as frightening as it may seem, try to befriend his mother, provided, of course, that he loves her and communicates with her often.
If you’re already living together but he has no intention of marrying you, suggest temporarily moving apart, become more self-sufficient, and don’t refuse new acquaintances.
If your partner truly values you, this approach will help.
But if there have been no real feelings from his side—only the convenience your cohabitation provides—then perhaps nothing will come of it.
At the same time, ask yourself whether it’s worth holding on to a man who simply uses you as a sex toy or a servant?
And finally, if your relationship has lost its romance, become routine, and he’s in no rush to register the marriage, suggest going on vacation to some exotic country. This trip will renew your relationship and fill it with romance. Moreover, you could get married there according to local customs—something that doesn’t legally bind the man but may seem intriguing to him.
At the subconscious level, however, marriage will have taken place, and this may prompt him to enter into an official marriage upon returning home.
