Imagine this scenario: a girl meets a decent guy and they start dating. For some, the relationship quickly moves into the bedroom stage, while others might decide it’s better to wait a while. And some are already mentally trying on a wedding dress, thrilled that they managed to tame the man so easily.
However, don’t get too excited just yet. As global experience shows, it’s still too early to relax. In your boyfriend’s circle, besides you, there are other women who, under certain circumstances, could quite possibly lay claim to his body, wallet, and even a share of living space.
So who should you fear most? From which direction should you expect a betrayal? Let’s examine the main possibilities.
The friend’s girlfriend. I’ll say it straight away—this scenario is unlikely. Few men would risk becoming a betrayer. Male friendship, solidarity, and all that… And not every woman is capable of such a step. Still, such affairs usually end in marriage. Think about it: only very strong feelings could drive someone to such a betrayal, and as you understand, unrequited feelings. So why refuse your own happiness, especially when it’s been bought at such a high price?
The ex-girlfriend. Now this, as they say, is a zone of special attention. Even if it seems everything is long over, don’t relax too much. Especially if she periodically appears on the horizon, seemingly by accident. Be sure her appearances are not coincidental. Moreover, this woman knows all your partner’s strengths and weaknesses, his pain points, and exactly how to press his psychological buttons to get what she wants. And as they say, knowledge is power. Some women consider their men, including exes, as a kind of personal territory. Therefore, they wouldn’t mind restoring the status quo. So if you have no desire to become his ex-girlfriend yourself, try to minimize their communication. Even if the guy assures you that the flames of love have long been extinguished and now they’re just friends, remember—this kind of interaction most often ends in “sex out of old habit.” Though, there’s another possibility—this woman might be utterly repulsive to him, and he avoids her like the devil avoids incense (based on some personal experience, I’ll confidentially say, this happens too).
Just a friend. They’ve been communicating for a long time and so far nothing has happened between them? I’ll say it straight: most likely, nothing ever will. Obviously, the guy probably only saw this girl as a free psychoanalyst, and perhaps a bit more. Yes, she’s a good person, but clearly not his type. Imagine that it’s not so, and he actually finds her attractive as a woman. Then someone will try to pull the other into bed, and at that point there are essentially two outcomes: either they become lovers, or they part ways—in any case, the friendship is over. A normal man simply can’t endure such tension for long, and a true friend can’t calmly watch his buddy suffer.
Still, never say never. Friendships have occasionally turned into love. Rarely, but it happens. For example, he breaks up with his girlfriend, she quarrels with her boyfriend, and left unsupervised, they suddenly start seeing each other differently. Overall, if they’re communicating, let them communicate, especially since most likely he doesn’t perceive her as a woman anyway—just a comrade in arms, a friend from tough times. But if suddenly you notice he prefers talking to her over spending time with you, it’s time to think. Perhaps they’re still just friends, and the guy isn’t thinking about anything serious—he might simply feel some discomfort with you. Or perhaps it’s time to take action before it’s too late.
Work colleagues. They’re just colleagues. But the fact that he’s already taken automatically boosts his status in the eyes of female coworkers. You know, someone else’s piece always seems tastier. And thanks to you, he’s become much more self-confident. And… in such cases, someone might feel tempted to perform heroic deeds. Of course, for a long time they may have shown no interest in each other—or one in the other—but certainly not because he’s surrounded by dull mice with unattractive appearances (like Katya Pushkarova). Their interaction is bound by certain office conventions. But if someone decides to disregard these conventions… Back in the Soviet Union, you could march into the party committee and complain about immoral behavior. Today, things are different, and everyone solves their own problems, including personal ones, independently. Still, the vast majority of office romances follow a very primitive plot: they drink at the company party, someone drags someone else into bed (haystack, hotel room, back seat of a car), and the next day both pretend intensely that they don’t even know each other.
Your friend. Another difficult case. Thanks to you, your friend is aware of all the problems, if any arise. And if needed, she’s ready to offer strong female support (or a kick in the shins—it’s up to her)… Moreover, she has a fairly good idea of what your boyfriend is really like, purely theoretical for now, but… If she decides he should be with her, don’t doubt she won’t sit idle with folded hands. Most often, both the friend and the boyfriend are lost. No, indeed, they say rightly—another soul is darkness, especially if it’s a woman’s soul. Sometimes it turns out that the one considered your best friend all along was hiding a stone in her bosom, waiting for the right moment. And if your friend happens to be an obvious bitch who knows how to make an impression, his chances of resisting are slim. Whether she’ll take the man for good or just “sleep with him and leave” is up to her. Again, based on personal experience, I’ll say some foresighted girls never introduce their boyfriends to their friends—keeping them away from temptation.
As we see, so many people, so much love. Sometimes you have to fight tooth and nail for your personal happiness. But still, your main weapon is your love—so don’t hesitate to give it to your chosen one.
