Today I’m writing my astrological blog again and want to share with you my thoughts on chronic stress in the past and its impact on our present. Over the years of working as an astrologer, I’ve come to a clear conclusion: most of my clients suffer from the same psychological issues. The most interesting part is that these very problems push people toward certain actions that destroy happiness and harmony in the future. Indeed, steps we take, for example, at ages 19–20, manifest as unpleasant outcomes in our future 10–15 years later. And due to the time lag, we fail to see the connection—but it exists! As a result: divorces, crises, disappointments… Strong personalities cope on their own, while those who no longer have such strength get stuck in the “swamp of life.” And the most intriguing part is that all actions of such people in the present and near future will likewise be dictated by the consequences of neurosis experienced in the past or present. So what kind of future can such people possibly have? Can they attain happiness at all?
Psychophysiology textbooks state that prolonged stress (for example, during a difficult childhood or with parents who constantly argue) leads to neurosis. Neurosis is a condition primarily caused by long-lasting, difficult-to-bear stressful situations that disrupt psychological adaptation, cause nervous system exhaustion (a combination of irritability and increased fatigue), anxiety, and manifest as psychosomatic health problems. For example, in children, this often appears as enuresis or allergies, while in adults, it may present as migraines, vegetative-vascular dystonia, and so on. In reality, there are many types of neuroses because each person is unique. Among the main ones, we can highlight:
- Obsessive neurosis (I’ve encountered this in clients: jealousy, fixation on personal failures),
- Hysterical neurosis—a disorder resulting from a stressful situation, affecting your motor functions, with emotional expressions becoming overly vivid, appearing exaggerated and inappropriate to others…
Yes, yes, it creeps up on us unnoticed, but the longer this condition persists, the heavier its consequences can be for personal happiness. This topic deeply affected me, and I started digging deeper. And voilà—it turns out I am also a neurotic personality. It all began with my reflections on goodness. For a long time, I was tormented by the question: why am I so “fixated” on helping others? Since childhood. This caused me particular problems in my first marriage, when my husband often didn’t share the idea of universal love and unconditional mutual support. We even argued about it. It was sad. As a result, a strong inner conflict developed within me—between the desire to be a good mother and wife in my husband’s eyes, and at the same time, a worthy person in my own eyes. I didn’t become a good wife in his eyes, and we parted. But I preserved within me the belief in goodness, in helping others, and now I understand that this need made me who I am. And suddenly I learn that the desire to do good to others is not a calling, but a consequence of prolonged stress in early childhood. And this condition is called neurosis. Well then… does that mean I’m a neurotic??? Hm… and my childhood was indeed tough, and my first husband sincerely believed I was hysterical. That’s exactly what he used to say. So there must be some truth here. Yes, my horoscope also confirms the presence of psychoemotional disturbances in early life. This is very clearly visible in the horoscope. But I didn’t surrender—I began fighting for myself, for my happiness, and for the happiness of my daughter. After all, it’s clear that a psychologically harmonious child cannot grow from a traumatized mother. Realizing at the time that I could be hysterical, I made every effort to overcome this state within myself. I went to a psychologist, studied astrology, and now—psychology. And I believe—I’ve overcome many issues. Astrology and psychology helped me, that is, astro-psychology.
How to get rid of neurosis?
If neurosis is of a very severe form, psychotherapy can help. Yes, yes—you should join a support group (which I find more effective) or work individually with a psychotherapist. But this is a longer path. The main goal of neurosis psychotherapy is eliminating character defects and changing behavioral patterns. It has been proven that after correction, neurotic symptoms disappear. The person begins to live differently. Moreover, when this happens, we can confidently say that they will never suffer from neurosis again, as they have already learned to live, fully satisfying their organism’s needs without harming themselves or society. Such a person will never stray from the right path again.
Therefore, I wish you all the strength not to stray from your Path!
With respect,
Astrologer
Angelika Zhuravska
P.S. This summer, I want to launch a course titled “Astropsychology: Psychological Support Group” for those who, like me once, are ready to bravely face and overcome their inner “cockroaches.”
This course will include 5–7 sessions. We’ll try holding the first group on Sundays starting June 28, meeting for 3.5 hours from 15:00 to 18:30. The course will involve an astrologer (me), a gestalt therapist, and other psychologists will be invited as well. Details about the course will appear soon in the ANNOUNCEMENTS section or under ALL TRAINING PROGRAMS.
Wishing you all the best!
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