We all have a more or less clear idea of the female ideal in the eyes of men. Unfortunately, we rarely reflect on the traits that repel men. Let’s examine female personality types that men avoid like the plague, keeping as far away as possible.
Man-hater One of the “achievements” of women’s long, exhausting struggle for their rights has been the addition of financial responsibility to traditional female duties (household management and child-rearing). Yes, we strived for this independence. But one of its consequences has been the masculinization of some representatives of the fair sex. These women, in addition to gaining desired equality with men in career building and participation in socio-political life, have also adopted many masculine personal traits—and lost their feminine individuality. Overly emancipated individuals typically wear unisex clothing, have masculine hairstyles, speak bluntly and without restraint, adamantly pay for themselves in restaurants, and equally reject makeup and compliments.
These women love to bring up, at appropriate and inappropriate moments, how we are oppressed and humiliated by “these dirty animals”—men. They often speak at length about how men only want “one thing” from women, without realizing that no one has desired that “one thing” from them personally in a very long time. Unfortunately, life proves: such individuals impress neither by beauty nor intelligence. For a wise, flexible woman understands that the best way to get a man to do what she wants is to make him believe the idea was his own. The typical man-hater always charges head-on, foaming at the mouth to prove her superiority. Such combative women are capable of repelling not only men, but women as well.
The Clinger The representative of this type is usually feminine, sweet, and yielding. Twenty-four hours a day, she selflessly surrounds her beloved with constant attention, care, and affection. The “Clinger” wants to know everything happening in her lover’s life at all times. Even when he is out of her sight, he is forced to answer her concerned calls a hundred times a day, sometimes interrupting important business meetings.
Men initially enjoy such sweet little kitties, under whose shower of compliments and caresses men (typically not burdened with excessive self-criticism) quickly begin to grow in their own eyes. But gradually, the cloying affection, accompanied by equally nauseating baby talk, becomes tiresome, and eventually he develops an allergy to all confectionery products. Fearing he might drown in this syrup, the object of the “Clinger’s” adoration tries to escape, but all his timid (so as not to hurt his beloved’s finest feelings) attempts prove futile. “I love you so much! And how do you love me?”—this phrase, repeated a hundred times a day, begins to haunt the poor man in his worst nightmares.
By nature, man is a hunter, and for a woman to remain desirable, a certain distance must be maintained between the hunter and his prey. When a man realizes he has become the catch of an insistent “Clinger,” he desperately tries to break free from her sticky web, which has become utterly repulsive. This situation is perfectly illustrated in the old beloved Soviet film “The Vanity of Vanities.” Frunzik Mkrtchyan’s character, unable to endure his lover’s suffocating affection, joyfully returns to his emotionally restrained wife and her 37-kopeck semi-processed cutlets.
The Hysterical For the sensitive and emotional female nature, hysteria is often just one of the ways to express emotions. Thanks to the plasticity of the female psyche, this nervous episode usually causes no significant harm to health. After some time following an emotional outburst, a sense of relief comes, and the woman feels renewed and refreshed.
For the vast majority of men, hysteria is a foreign, incomprehensible, and therefore frightening phenomenon. The sight of a crying lover threatening suicide, drenched in tears or wild laughter, initially shocks a man. He is ready to agree to any conditions and make any concessions just to stop the hysteria and ensure his beloved doesn’t actually do something terrible.
Manipulating these psychological traits of the opposite sex, some women consider hysteria a foolproof method to fulfill all their desires. However, with frequent use of this tactic, the hysterical woman eventually achieves the opposite: when she threatens to cut her veins, her lover first simply stops reacting. And one fine day, he might even dare to bring her a set of blades to finally help her carry out her plan.
The Saw The “saw” woman type can be divided into two subgroups: the “electric saw” and the “mechanical saw.” They behave differently but make an equally sharp negative impression on the opposite sex.
The “electric saw” acts actively and even aggressively, striving to re-educate and reshape her man according to her ideals, using her vocal cords to full capacity, and sometimes even handy objects (whatever happens to be at hand at the moment). The “positive” effect of changing her lover is based here on simultaneous impact on all his sensory organs: he sees a fearsome creature before him, hears sounds at extreme frequencies and decibels, and feels therapeutic touches from an iron, a vase, etc. The result is evident: the enemy is suppressed, the opponent left in peace. However, it should be noted that enthusiasts of such intense sensations are few, and after a couple of such performances, the man usually flees from the electric saw at the speed of sound.
The “mechanical saw” acts less aggressively. Her behavior toward her partner is based on the principle “water wears away stone.” Monotonous nagging sometimes indeed brings desired results. But even among masochists, few will enjoy such refined Chinese torture enough to endure it for long.
PS Everyone knows that if a man truly loves a woman, of course, he tolerates and accepts all her flaws. However, if you recognize painfully familiar traits of your beloved in any of the described types, consider whether it’s worth subjecting your partner’s feelings to such a serious test of strength?
TEST: How attractive are you to men?
In your opinion, a loving man should declare his love no less than once
a) per year;
b) per month;
c) per hour.
1. A business trip for your lover is:
a) a professional necessity;
b) combining pleasure with usefulness;
c) an excuse to go all out.
2. His friends are:
a) your friends;
b) people you barely know;
c) complete scoundrels.
3. Cosmetics and perfumes for you are:
a) tools of self-expression;
b) a life necessity;
c) a waste of money.
4. On weekends, you’d prefer to go out with your lover
a) to a football match;
b) to the cinema or theater;
c) to your mother’s place.
5. For you, sex is:
a) an incomparable pleasure;
b) something more than an expensive meal, but less than a fashion show;
c) satisfying male lust.
6. An unexpected cash bonus, you’d prefer to spend on:
a) a new computer graphics card;
b) a tourist trip;
c) a fourth fur coat.
7. For dinner, you usually serve
a) lamb pot-au-feu, squid salad with Parmesan, and vanilla mousse for dessert;
b) various egg dishes;
c) whatever he finds in the fridge.
8. I express my complaints to my lover
a) softly, in bed;
b) in the form of a conversation;
c) with the help of handy objects.
If in your answers the majority are:
• letter “a” , a rare embodiment of men’s dreams and ideals of the perfect woman;
• letter “b” , you undoubtedly appeal to many men, and even minor flaws in no way diminish your charm in their eyes;
• letter “c” , since for every product there is a buyer, so you still have a chance…
