Clutter in any area of your home is a sign of stagnant energy. The more clutter you have, the more sluggish the energy becomes. If clutter and disorder are present in areas of your home associated with romance, this also affects your love life.
From a feng shui perspective, three places in your home that have the greatest impact on your romantic relationships are your bedroom, the relationship area (below you will learn how to locate it), and the space around your front doors. Here’s why:
Clutter in the bedroom
Your bedroom is strongly associated with intimacy and romantic relationships. Disorder in the bedroom can contribute to fatigue, irritability, lack of focus, and sleep difficulties. When you and your partner are tired, irritable, and distracted most of the time, your relationship may not be receiving the quality attention it needs and deserves. If you are single, a cluttered bedroom creates obstacles to forming new relationships; all that stagnant energy literally slows down meeting someone new. And this is even before a potential partner sees the mess you live in! Clearing clutter from your bedroom is an excellent way to shake off stagnant energy and make space for new relationships.
Clutter in the relationship area
In feng shui, the “bagua” grid is a map of spatial energetic influence. Some use the bagua according to compass directions; according to this method, the relationship area is located in the southwest sector of your home or a specific room. The Western school of feng shui aligns the bagua from the entrance into the space; in this case, the relationship area will be in the right rear corner of the house or room. Instead of being confused about which method to use, why not check both? Examine the southwest sector of your home, as well as the southwest part of your bedroom. Now check the room (or rooms) in the right rear corner of your home, and look at the far right corner of your bedroom. Like a wet blanket thrown over a fire, clutter in any of these areas can smother the passion and intensity of your romantic relationships. It’s not very appealing to be around you when you’re depressed, indecisive, creatively blocked, overly emotional, or conversely, too apathetic—you likely approach your personal life this way if your relationship area is cluttered! Locate these zones in your home and bedroom, and always clear clutter there first.
Clutter near the front doors
The third key factor is the area around the front doors. The main entrance is called the “mouth of chi” in feng shui because it most strongly influences how chi (energy) flows into your home. You can’t nourish your body without opening your mouth to eat. Likewise, your home cannot receive fresh, vital chi if the main entrance is cluttered or rarely used. Look at your front doors. Do they open fully, or do you have things stored behind them? Is your foyer or hallway clean and welcoming, or cluttered with junk you meant to discard but never got around to? When was the last time you used your front door?
Front doors are associated with opportunities. If you’ve been trying to meet someone new without success, remove clutter around the front entrance and use this entry more often; it’s a good way to shake off stagnant energy. You’ll find that chances to meet someone appear more frequently, and you’ll be more likely to take them rather than feel too tired to leave the house. If you already have a partner, a cluttered front entrance can add dullness and stall your relationship. Opening the front door more widely and frequently is a good way to breathe new life into fading romantic connections.
Once you’ve cleared clutter from the key areas of your home, you’ll surely notice positive shifts in your personal life. For those who are single and seeking love, clearing space in your home literally creates space for new relationships. A new partner may appear right away, or it may take some time for energy shifts and new connections to emerge. Either way, creating space by removing clutter helps lift your spirits, improve your mood, and strengthen your energy—making you more pleasant and attractive to those around you, both old friends and new.
If you have a partner but your relationship isn’t working well, clearing clutter on your own is unlikely to solve all the problems in your shared life. However, by clearing key areas, you create mental and emotional space for greater clarity regarding the issues and behavioral patterns contributing to difficulties in marriage or cohabitation. With greater clarity come more opportunities for wise decisions and appropriate actions. You’ll find that clearing clutter also helps release cracks in the relationship. Recognize that this is all for the better, and focus on the space you’ve cleared—in your heart as well as in your home—for new and better love.
