In many cases, the reason for a wife’s demanding behavior lies in the lack of attention she receives.
Women love to be heard. She expects compliments, craves love and adoration, gifts and attention. Shower her with praise, demonstrate your admiration, and express approval of all her actions. Compliment her, use the warmest words to describe her, but don’t overdo it—don’t offer empty flattery. Insincere flattery is offensive. When uplifted by such attention and sensitivity, a wife will reward you with love and gratitude. Of course, there are also other types of women who are not self-centered but instead suppress, offend, and belittle men, destroying their masculine dignity. They strive to force a man to conform to some specific behavioral stereotype. There is no faster way to drive a man away than such behavior. Once, a thirty-year-old athletic, handsome pathologist came to see me. He had been married for six years, with no children by mutual agreement (they were still settling into their life together). He complained about his wife, who had turned him into a henpecked husband. His wife dominated their family dynamics and ultimately betrayed him, committing adultery. I asked him: “What is your wife’s name, and her date of birth?”
He replied—“Cobra.” That was the only name I heard. But according to the Chinese zodiac, his wife was born in the Year of the Snake, while he was born in the Year of the Tiger. There is no synastry in this union if we consider compatibility by birth dates, because the Snake and the Tiger are karmic enemies, not allies. This indicates that these people will remain adversaries throughout life. The parents of this couple were against their marriage, yet the couple married “out of defiance”—but not to their parents, rather, to their own detriment. Such a marriage cannot be saved. The individuals recognized their mistake in time—let them now build new relationships in which both can be happy. Husbands and wives must stop nitpicking, constantly searching for minor flaws and shortcomings in each other. Let each of them pay attention to the other and admire their professional, intimate, and simply human qualities.
WHEN A MAN OFTEN “HAS A HEADACHE”
and begins to fall into a gloomy mood, expressing anger toward his wife regardless of what she does—everything is wrong! From a psychological standpoint regarding compatibility, he is committing emotional infidelity, using the Sicilian defense—defending himself through attack. In such a case, marital betrayal manifests as a mental fusion with all that is negative and destructive. If a man silently resents his wife and is filled with hostility toward her, it means he is unfaithful to her. He is not honoring his marital vows. If a man is overwhelmed by other causes and disagreements within the family, then dialogue is essential—even in otherwise reasonable families. Through dialogue, couples reach mutual understanding. A man should be ready to replace anger with kindness, “swallow his sharp remarks,” become attentive, kind, and courteous, while the wife should let go of misunderstandings. A man can overcome all disagreements through praise, cast negative thoughts out of his mind, and reevaluate the worth of the person dear to him—his wife. In doing so, he will improve not only his relationship with his wife but also with his coworkers. After all, a person who is internally unsettled tends to vent their anger on subordinates—innocent people who are not to blame. Transform yourself, restructure your approach, strive to achieve harmony, accumulate inner peace, and you will ultimately attain mental calm, strong health, family harmony, business success, and financial prosperity!
If you have any questions, please feel free to call Ruslan—he will gladly answer all your inquiries.
