Moon in Virgo

"How does your child perceive their mother?"
To the child, the mother appears neat but critical, constantly preoccupied with matters of health, proper nutrition, and behavior. Everything she does is a model of perfection!
"What does the child need in order to feel secure and safe?"
Your child needs to feel useful. One of the best ways to raise them is to patiently give them your time and teach them the skill of helping. Turn it into a game, but teach them how to handle small daily tasks that simply must be done, and let them know that in doing so, they are helping you.
It will be emotionally distressing for your child to live in a disorganized environment or to be dirty; they will avoid untidy or soiled clothing. You won’t need to push them into showers—they will do it enthusiastically on their own. If possible, give them a separate room where they can keep their belongings in the order they prefer. And although someone else might perceive their arrangement as chaos, your child knows exactly where everything belongs and becomes very upset when that order is disturbed.
To develop the mastery so essential to your child’s sense of self, provide them with space and materials to tinker with models, crafts, and so on. They love making things with their hands and will work with great attention to detail. They are somewhat timid and shy, and strive for perfection, so allow them to work at their own pace with minimal interference.
Your child will be more health-conscious than most. They can easily be taught personal hygiene and good eating habits. However, they may have an acute sensitivity to discomfort (dirt, disorder) and may even become anxious about it.