Today I want to write about the personal problems of people I encounter as an astropsychologist. The blog may not be the largest, but I will describe a real story. So, most often in my work with clients, I see such deep-seated issues as: FEELINGS OF GUILT, FEAR OF LONELINESS, LOW SELF-ESTEEM, RESENTMENT, AND INABILITY TO BE HAPPY IN LOVE.
People come to me for astropsychological consultations with such topics. Sometimes they say outright: “Hello, Anzhelika. Today I probably came to you more as a psychologist than an astrologer.” And then I understand that this person is seeking help, ready to work. And we begin to work with what weighs on them, with what prevents them from being happy.
I want to tell you about one case. About the Not-So-Brilliant Beast… A woman came to see me for a consultation—satisfied, mature, just over 50. Life had unfolded for her in such a way that she had married a promising man, but they had no children. Then one day, her husband suffered a stroke and was paralyzed. He could no longer work. She had to care for him, provide for him, but there was almost no income, nothing to live on. It’s worth noting that outwardly, this woman is quite striking now: tall, slender, with beautiful long legs and a trim waist. Whether it’s genetics or she seriously takes care of herself, the fact remains that she is a very striking lady. Years passed, and she nursed her husband as much as possible. When an advantageous match with another man appeared on the horizon, she divorced, but it didn’t work out. Then her ex-husband offered her a job as his caregiver since he still needed help (his recovery was complete), and she agreed. It turned out that she remained financially dependent on him, as she couldn’t stand on her own two feet, but she handled her duties well. Deep down, though, she harbored a dream of a Prince—or at least a King. But somehow, life never quite worked out for her… She had visited psychologists and coaches, earned a massage therapist certificate, worked a little, but deep down, she felt that nothing was right and that things should be different.
Not long ago, this woman came to me asking when happiness would finally come into her life. But during the consultation, she suddenly said, “Anzhelika, work with me as a psychologist. I don’t want to live; I’ve had thoughts of suicide. I can’t achieve anything. What’s wrong with me?” Of course, I asked, “Why do you believe you can’t achieve anything in life?” And the woman told me her life story.
It turned out that throughout her entire childhood, she had been pressured by her mother, and her internal sense of insecurity was so strong and unconscious that it clouded her thinking and perception of life. It seemed that she could never accomplish anything on her own, that nothing would work out, and so she had to rely on a man, strive to get married. When she was very young, she had decided: marry advantageously and close her heart to others. Because there was pain inside, inflicted by her mother.
As an astrologer, by that point, I had already studied her natal chart, assessed her potential, and compared her psychological portrait with her astrological one. I saw the “sharp edges” of her personality and the areas that would become the most painful in her life. Then, based on the points she voiced, we worked together psychologically on her condition.
We worked on forgiving her mother, and it was after that, when I asked, “Tell me, who in your life has prevented you from developing and moving forward?” her answer was, “The Not-So-Brilliant Beast!” Then she added, “But now I’m not her. Now I finally know why I never believed in myself my whole life: because I always felt like the Not-So-Brilliant Beast! But now I know—I’m Olena [name changed]—and the Not-So-Brilliant Beast is my inferiority complex.”
Then I added some astrological motivation to my work with this client, and the woman, who had once seen herself as a failure with low self-esteem, filled with faith in her own strength. She left with an open, not a closed heart. Usually, for such clients, I give an astrological glimpse into the future before they leave, and the client gains a new vision of their life. Such a person then attracts completely different people, different partners, and no longer feels like a Nobody. That’s how I work with the topic of self-esteem. Overall, it took us three sessions to get there.
The client left with the understanding and conviction that now everything is in her hands, and life can be different…
I see that there are many people like this client, and the more I delve into this area, the more I realize it. So, over the past year, I’ve had a strong feeling that I need to create thematic groups of 5–7 people and work through individual personal issues—aggression, resentment, guilt, fears, problems with joy, happiness… Ah, if only I had joined such a group myself at some point… Life would have been easier.
That’s all for today.
With respect to the blog readers,
Astropsychologist
Anzhelika Zhuravska.
P.S. You can contact me by email: astrodata.pro@gmail.com
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